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After the tears, helping adult children of alcoholics heal their childhood trauma, Jane Middelton-Moz & Lorie Dwinell

eng

Includes bibliographical references (pages 279-282) and index

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After the tears

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Jane Middelton-Moz & Lorie Dwinell

helping adult children of alcoholics heal their childhood trauma

"Adult children of alcoholics have learned how to "survive," but often have difficulty "living" their lives. The trauma and grief of childhood losses affect every aspect of the life of an adult child of an alcoholic (ACoA). Now the authors of the bestselling After the Tears offer further insight into the origin and cost of childhood pain for those who grew up in alcoholic families. In this revised and expanded edition, Jane Middelton-Moz and Lorie Dwinell combine their years of experience in working with ACoAs, tackling issues such as intimacy, sibling relationships, codependency, breaking the alcoholic pattern, building a relationship with the inner child, forgiveness, and opening a window to spirituality"--Publisher description

The bomb in the basement and the bomb in the attic : common characteristics of alcoholic families and survival adaptation of adult children of alcoholics -- The same but different : differences in children from the same alcoholic family and differences in alcoholic families -- Self-sufficient in an insufficient way : learning to survive under chronic stress -- The gift that keeps on giving : characteristics of children of alcoholics -- Surviving the unimaginable : the resiliency of children of alcoholics -- Validation of trauma and breaking through denial : understanding the normal response to an abnormal and painful life -- Building a cognitive life raft : developing an intellectual understanding of the effects of a painful life -- An emotional safety net : building a relationship with the child within -- Grief work : the pain that begins to heal itself -- Mourning, then behavior change : moving on and giving back -- I want you, want you gone, want you back : ACOAs in intimate relationships -- Misplaced loyalty : the codependency factor -- Empowering change in a painful legacy : adult children and sibling relationships -- ACOAs become parents : a pioneering effort -- A pain too deep : ACOAs taking care of elderly parents -- ACOAs in the workplace : I can be a team player as long as I'm the only player on the team -- Acceptance and forgiveness : holding on to resentment is like taking poison and hoping the other guy dies -- Finding the sacred in the ordinary : opening a window to spirituality for adult children of alcoholics