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Feeling good together, the secret to making troubled relationships work, David D. Burns

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Feeling good together

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David D. Burns

the secret to making troubled relationships work

Dr. David D. Burns gives tips on how to make relationships, ranging from colleague to spouse, more satisfying. Dr. Burns uses Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy (CIT) in order to achieve harmony in any relationship

Why can't we all just get along? -- What the experts say -- The dark side of human nature -- Why we secretly love to hate -- Ideas that can change your life -- Diagnosing your relationship -- How good is your relationship? : the relationship satisfaction test -- What do you really want? -- The price of intimacy -- Let's get specific : one moment of enlightenment -- Good vs. bad communication -- How we control other people -- Troubled couples -- How to develop loving relationships -- With the people you care about -- The five secrets of effective communication -- The disarming technique -- What is empathy? -- Inquiry : "did I get that right?" -- "I feel" statements -- Stroking : "I it" vs. "I thou" relationships -- Putting it all together : solutions to common relationship problems -- Making the five secrets work for you -- Mastering the five secrets -- Using the five secrets in real time : the intimacy exercise -- Intimacy training for couples : the one-minute drill -- Common traps and how to avoid them -- "Help! the five secrets didn't work!" -- Helping and problem-solving -- Hiding your head in the sand : conflict phobia and anger phobia -- Apologizing : "can't I just say, 'I'm sorry'?" -- Submissiveness : "I must please you" -- Resistance revisited : "why should I have to do all the work?" -- Advanced techniques -- Changing the focus : is there an elephant in the room? -- Positive reframing : opening the door to intimacy -- Multiple-choice empathy : how to talk to someone who refuses to talk to you

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