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The Resource Secrets and lies : surviving the truths that change our lives, Jane Isay

Secrets and lies : surviving the truths that change our lives, Jane Isay

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Secrets and lies : surviving the truths that change our lives
Title
Secrets and lies
Title remainder
surviving the truths that change our lives
Statement of responsibility
Jane Isay
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Subject
Language
eng
Summary
  • "By the author of Walking on Eggshells, a compellingly readable journey into the realm of family secrets, offering lessons and insights for those who are hiding the truth and those who discover what has long been hidden. Secrets, large and small, are a fact of human life. This book explores the impact of keeping secrets and the power of truth. Secrets can damage our sense of self and our relationships. Even so, Jane Isay has found, people survive learning the most disturbing facts that have been hidden from them. And secret keepers are relieved when they finally reveal themselves--even the things they are ashamed of--to the people they care about. Much depends, Isay writes, on the way of telling and the way of hearing. Jane Isay was both a secret finder and a secret keeper. After fifteen years of marriage her husband admitted he was gay, but together they decided to keep it a secret for the sake of their two sons. Building on her personal experience, sixty intimate interviews, and extensive research into the psychology of secrets, Isay shows how the pain of secrets can be lightened by full disclosure, genuine apology, and time. Sometimes the truth sunders relationships, but often it saves them. Powered by detailed stories and Isay's compassionate analysis, Secrets and Lies reveals how universal secrets are in families. The big ones--affairs, homosexuality, parentage, suicide, abuse, hidden siblings--can be ruinous at first, but the effects need not last forever, and Isay shows us what makes the difference. With specific guidelines for those who keep secrets and those who find them out, Isay's book reveals the art of surviving a secret"--
  • "By the author of Walking on Eggshells, a compellingly readable journey into the realm of family secrets, offering lessons and insights for those who are hiding the truth and those who discover what has long been hidden. Secrets, large and small, are a fact of human life. This book explores the impact of keeping secrets and the power of truth. Secrets can damage our sense of self and our relationships. Even so, Jane Isay has found, people survive learning the most disturbing facts that have been hidden from them. And secret keepers are relieved when they finally reveal themselves--even the things they are ashamed of--to the people they care about. Much depends, Isay writes, on the way of telling and the way of hearing. Jane Isay was both a secret finder and a secret keeper. After fifteen years of marriage her husband admitted he was gay, but together they decided to keep it a secret for the sake of their two sons. Building on her personal experience, sixty intimate interviews, and extensive research into the psychology of secrets, Isay shows how the pain of secrets can be lightened by full disclosure, genuine apology, and time. Sometimes the truth sunders relationships, but often it saves them. Powered by detailed stories and Isay's compassionate analysis, Secrets and Lies reveals how universal secrets are in families. The big ones--affairs, homosexuality, parentage, suicide, abuse, hidden siblings--can be ruinous at first, but the effects need not last forever, and Isay shows us what makes the difference. With specific guidelines for those who keep secrets and those who find them out, Isay's book reveals the art of surviving a secret. "--
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Isay, Jane
Dewey number
306.85
Index
no index present
LC call number
HQ76.13
LC item number
.I83 2014
Literary form
non fiction
http://library.link/vocab/subjectName
  • Gay fathers
  • Closeted gays
  • Family secrets
  • Families
  • Deception
Label
Secrets and lies : surviving the truths that change our lives, Jane Isay
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Publication
Carrier category
volume
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Control code
ocn840464930
Dimensions
22 cm
Edition
1st ed.
Extent
198 pages
Isbn
9780385534147
Isbn Type
(hardback)
Lccn
2013018902
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
System control number
(OCoLC)840464930
Label
Secrets and lies : surviving the truths that change our lives, Jane Isay
Publication
Carrier category
volume
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Control code
ocn840464930
Dimensions
22 cm
Edition
1st ed.
Extent
198 pages
Isbn
9780385534147
Isbn Type
(hardback)
Lccn
2013018902
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
System control number
(OCoLC)840464930

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